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<h1 style="text-align: center;">The Infamous IHAB – How to handle “I have a Boyfriend”</h1>
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<p>Have you ever been at the bar, you’re flirting with a girl and things are going very well for you, and you decide, “What the hell, I’m an international super player – I’ll grab me them digits!” Enter swamp ass. You start to choke and start thinking of all the things that are about to go wrong in this – even though everything has been going so right! Down a few shots of tequila under the guise of being a fun party animal. It’s really liquid Courage. It’s time. Time to pop the question.</p>
<p><em>Wanna bang?</em> - No! No you fool! Not that question!</p>
<p>“So hey… Can I maybe… Maybe I can have your number? Please?”</p>
<p>The whole bar gets silent, the DJ stops spinning and everyone looks at you. Your pits put Niagara to shame and you inexplicably get that weird nervous boner. The smile fades from her face and she stares you down.</p>
<p>“Oh.. I… I have a boyfriend.”</p>
<p>Everyone laughs.</p>
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<h3>BASICS OF GAME – I HAVE A BOYFRIEND</h3>
<p>So how on earth do you deal with that?</p>
<p>As is always the case here at The Alpha Persona, I’m not going to do it for you; instead I think it’s important to understand <em>why</em> girls throw out these lines, what works to combat it, and what doesn’t.</p>
<p>A woman will throw out an IHAB for – I’ve found – one of three reasons: She has a boyfriend, but wants to bang you and needs a sufficient kickstart to put her hamster in motion; She doesn’t have a boyfriend and just wants to test your mettle; She has a boyfriend and really wishes you’d go away.</p>
<p>The key to dealing with any IHAB is figuring out if it’s one of the first two, or if it’s the third one. Your metric for determining that is typically said to be length of the conversation before she mentions him. Typical pick up literature suggests that if she mentions him within the first 3 minutes or so, she probably just wants you to fuck off. Based on my experience in the field, I’ll say that it’s generally true that if you introduce yourself and are immediately greeted with an IHAB, she doesn’t want you around. I’d say give it until three minutes in because most people just don’t know how to say “no” and so she’ll wait until an appropriate time to let you down as <em>easily as possible</em>.</p>
<p>If you’re well into the conversation, you go for the digits (or venue bounce – another surprisingly common time it happens), and she drops an IHAB it is most definitely a <a title="Say Funny Things; Get Laid – A How To Guide For Passing Shit-Tests" href="https://backpage.linknavy.nl/" target="_blank">shit test</a>.</p>
<h3>WHAT TO DO</h3>
<p>Turn tail and run! No I’m kidding, you’re not a pussy. There are several ways you could deal with this, but no matter what you choose, you have to be confident and direct. Trying to squirm around the <strong>Boyfriend Bomb </strong>is weak and won’t get you anywhere. Let’s imagine she drops the bomb, below I will give you seven responses and the reasoning behind them. My goal being, after reading and understanding this post, you should be able to come up with your own responses on the fly and get good results.</p>
<h3>“I HAVE A BOYFRIEND….”</h3>
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<p>Good! He can give you something to do when I’m not around.</p>
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<p>This is from Roosh’s 30 Bangs book. This is a brilliant line because it deflects the attention and pressure off of you, and onto him. It’s clever and funny, and never something she would expect you to say. This is actually becoming one of my favorite lines since reading the book. I haven’t gotten a chance to field test it much, but I plan on it this weekend.</p>
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<p>I have a math test<br /><strong>Her: </strong><em>What?<br /></em>I’m sorry, I thought we were talking about things we were going to cheat on.</p>
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<p>This is a Roissy-esque line that requires a massive amount of frame control and a huge set of nuts. I’m going to be honest with you guys, I’d never use this line because its more likely to make her feel guilty in the event she really has a boyfriend than it is to make her feel bold and adventurous. This line has a high probability of failure, I feel, and the only reason I put it in this list is because if you have the balls to pull this line out, you get my respect – whether or not it works (but especially if it works).</p>
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<p>Cool!</p>
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<p>Don’t say it excited, say it quickly. Move on. The key behind this line is what it telegraphs….</p>
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<p>I don’t care.</p>
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<p>Like cool, this line (more overtly) telegraphs that her boyfriend is a nonissue. It’s like saying, “thanks for telling me a useless fact, so anyway…” – except in a concise and non-dickish way. If you’re ever at a loss for what to say, your default response to IHABs should be “I don’t care.”</p>
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<p>Me too!</p>
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<p>This has been my favorite for the past 4 months or so. Whenever a chick says she has a boyfriend, I shoot back with “Me too!” and maybe some line about how much we have in common before I move on to a different subject. It’s just barely clever when you’re alone, but this line really works it’s golden magic when you have a wingman – because you can point at him and insinuate that he’s, in fact, your boyfriend.</p>
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<p>So does my girlfriend!</p>
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<p>This is a straight rip off from Loveawake. This delivers the same clever punch as the math test line sans the guilt she’ll feel. It is more likely to make her laugh and less likely to make her introspect.</p>
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<p>Damn, I only have a dog.</p>
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<p>This one is always a fun line to pull out. You have to say it with that shit eating grin and then quickly get back on track by reasking for her number or whatever it was that caused the IHAB to crop up.</p>
<p>The IHAB is something you’re likely to encounter while you practice your game (especially if you’re new, as she’ll be way into checking your frame). My best advice is to use one of these lines if you can, and always keep “I don’t care” as your default line if you blank on what to say. The key with IHABS, like any shit test, is to <em>Agree & Amplify</em> or to crush her frame with yours. You have to quickly dismiss the IHAB as not something you’re worried about and then move the interaction forward. It is important to remember that <em>you</em> are always the one leading the interaction because <em>you’re the man</em> in the relationship.</p>
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